Today I wanted to share with you what it means to love your man — I mean really love him. This December, I will have been married to my husband for 20 years — been together for 23 years. WOW! When I sit and think about how many years we’ve been together I am just blown away. One thing that I have learned during those 23 years is something that a very good friend told us early on in our marriage counseling. It was this — Giving 100% of yourself to each other and expect nothing in return.
Our marriage was not always rock solid. In fact, there was a time when we were gonna get divorced, but God had other plans. I’m so glad that He intervened. Because of that time, God has shown me over and over again what it truly means to love my husband. Here are a few of those things that I have learned.
Give 100% of yourself and expect nothing in return
This of course is SO hard, but I have found when I put ME aside and focus on his needs, he will in return put his needs aside and focus on me, so it all works out in the end — most times. And sometimes, that doesn’t happen. However, that doesn’t mean that I stop focusing on him ( I do sometimes and I lose sight of the bigger picture). It means that I should focus all the more on his needs and then GOD will meet mine.
Learn to overlook the petty issues
Every marriage has its ups and downs and we all find little quirks that drive us NUTS! If we focus on those, then we will start to see all of their flaws and before long, we kind of just do nothing but nit pick those petty things to death. Instead of focusing on those, find the traits about your spouse that you love and focus on those things. It will make the petty things seem trivial.
Put Yourself All In and Learn that Sometimes We Just Need to Keep Quiet
I know a lot of times it is so easy to just turn away when our husbands are acting out. However, in my own life, I have found that when I still love him and put myself all in to caring for him and overlooking his outburst or whatever it is he is going through, then the situation diffuses faster and we get back to our normal lives.
When I ag him on or nag him about whatever it is he has done that I don’t like, that only makes matters worse. Sometimes it is better to just not say anything at all.
Now it’s your turn!
What is the one piece of marriage advice have you received over the years that help you love your man even more?
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